First, we need
to know a lot about the person we are thinking of marrying. The person's
beliefs about family life are very important. There is a need to find a person
not only of good character but also one with whom we can have a good
relationship. The way we communicate in dating is a key to building a solid
marital relationship. Before proposing or setting that date, take time to sit
down with yourself first and think about the following
1.
Being a great
boyfriend or girlfriend is different than being great spouse. Make sure the
person to whom you want to marry is also interested in it. Drop your idea of
marry with him/ her if you find these following signs: -
. Your partner tries to change the subject whenever you talk about marriage.
. If he/ she talks like marriage are not a thing I am always thinking or
worried about for.
. Shows that he/she wants to marry you, and show that he/ she very excited
about it but keep you waiting for a long time
2. Wish to escape
from parents: - To fully step into the marriage relationship, the man and woman
must step out of their parents' home, authority, and care.
. After marriage the groom and bride begin new roles (husband or wife), share a
new name (Mr. and Mrs. Smith), and start a new relationship (marriage). These
new identities come with new functions and responsibilities that alter the
couple's relationship and their families.
3. Before you get
too excited and jump into any marriage, first ask yourself if you are ready to
be a wife or husband. Being a spouse is different than being a boyfriend,
girlfriend or fianc�. It requires new and more responsibilities and a lot more
attention.
4. While preparing
for marriage, you need to discuss how each of you feels about important things
like religion, parenting, taking care of aged relatives, where you will live,
who will earn the money, how it will be spent, if one of you will be a
full-time parent.
5. You should
prepare yourself for financial challenge because being married is not like
dating where you cover the dinner bill or pay for the movie tickets. It
involves new and more expensive bills.
6. After being
married you will live not only with the person you are in love with. Girls you
are going to join a new family. Where you have to live according to your
partner's lifestyle. You should also change yourself according to their family
culture, diet and living style.