Being a married couple is very easy but make your marriage “A long Term Relationship is really very hard”. Once the excitement of the festivities and the romantic honeymoon is over, the real work of marriage begins. Some useful tips for a successful married life written below. Some tips are serious, joyful and some can hurt you, but all can help you remember exactly why you got married in the first place and what it is you love so much about your mate.

Money is one of the most frequent roots of marital roughness. If you haven’t talked about it before the wedding, talk about it now. The sooner you establish a spending plan and agree on it, the more arguments you’ll avoid down the line. This tips also help you at the old stage of life.

Tell your partner how you are feeling, don’t expect that he knows you’ve had a bad day at work, he can’t guess that! Despite your belief that “he should just know”, he doesn’t. Let him know if something is bothering you, don’t play games.

Surprise him with a poem. Not about how much you love him or the stars and the moon, write real things like your first date, funny moments, holidays you’ve had together. The fun, warm memories. Surprise him with a gift basket of his favorite things, favorite music, favorite food, and favorite breakfast cereal. Doesn’t have to be expensive, but let him know you think of him and consider his needs.

Always be willing to say, “I’m sorry,” mean it. Whether it’s something small like not putting the cap on the toothpaste or something larger, the apology is more important than the incident and will be remembered far longer.

Never make life decisions unilaterally. Even if the new car will be used by you, your spouse’s input should be listened to and considered. Set a limit and agree that neither of you will spend over that amount without seek advice from the other.

Allow yourself a sense of wonder in the little things and share them. Do you see a beautiful sunset while doing the dishes? Point it out to your spouse and share that brief moment of beauty.

Talk with your spouse about how the way you are living your lives helps or takes away from what's important to you both.

Make conscious sacrifices. Let your “partner” choose the movie, the television show or the restaurant rather than always wanting to do it. Enjoy his or her pleasure.

Find out as much as you can know about his parents beforehand. Does his mum like cooking? Is his dad a devotional man or an artistic person.

Say “thank you” for little things as well as big things sometimes. He’ll be glad about hearing thanks for taking out the garbage and she’ll love a “thank you” for dinner occasionally. We often feel the most “taken for granted” for doing the daily or weekly things.

Admire your mate’s good qualities or something he or she has done for you to others – but within earshot. Surprises are good. It can be as small as a note in your spouse’s briefcase, an unexpected flower or making his favorite dessert.

Don’t abandon your mate in unknown situations. At your office party/family reunion, stay close and introduce him/her with some complimentary information to bolster her self-confidence. Devise a “signal” so that when you do part, she can let you know if she needs rescuing.

Never discuss important decisions when you’re angry. If the disagreement has reached the point of shouting or angry words, set a time and date to revive the topic until you’ve both cooled off.

Listen without trying to solve problems or give advice. Ask your partner how their day was and listen objectively. Don’t tell them how to handle situations unless they ask for your advice

Either you change or I will leave you. Those are the big relationship killer! If he smoked before married, don’t expect to change that! If he has always paid his bills a month late he maybe always will. Accept him, this is harder than it sounds. If you try and change him and succeed, he’s not the same person you fell in love with. If you try and change him and do not succeed, you are giving him a message that you don’t love him unconditionally.

Find one activity you both enjoy, whether it’s going to baseball games, golfing or watching classic movies, and make it a point to do it regularly together. A shared activity can give rise to many special moments and creates a common bond for conversation and something to look forward to together.

No you’re not, and you’re delusional if you keep thinking that way. Having a healthy relationship is also knowing when you’ve done something wrong and being able to face up to it and apologies. Don’t take this a step too far and play the victim role though. Just as you’re not always right, you’re not always wrong either. If someone makes you feel bad about yourself all the time, like you can never do anything right, then think about your own happiness.

Never, ever bring up past mistakes in an argument. It only escalates the emotional fighting and distracts both people from the topic at hand.

Be willing and able to reassure your partner and be thoughtful of their concerns and worries. If you’re going to be late, call and let them know so that they won’t be bothered. It costs you nothing and will show you are considerate and thinking of them.

Don’t spoil your partner’s fun just because you can’t join in. If he or she is your partner not necessary that he or she will also enjoy with you. Let him/ her enjoy their life individually.

We often hear people talking about honesty and trust qualities as being cornerstones of a healthy relationship. Honesty means just that – being open and telling the truth to your partner. We’re not saying you have to tell him that yes, you actually despise his best friend – that’s just rude and tactless, but honesty on the big things is crucial. trust cannot exist without honesty and sometimes that can mean telling people things they don’t want to hear.

Don’t discuss your personal problems with your family. Although it is tempting to tell your mother just how dreadful your first fight was. Long after you and your partner have made up and forgotten the issue, your mother will remember and view your spouse through different eyes.

Don’t stop him or her that he bites his nails? She twiddles her hair? These will be the same habits you’ll miss when he or she is gone, so accept them and forget it.

try to think of what a best friend means and be one to your spouse. This may mean sharing interests, experiences, dreams, failures and upsets. It may involve understanding a spouse's likes and dislikes and attempting to please him or her in any way possible. A best friend is also usually someone that can be confided to trusted, and relied upon. A spouse should be the kind of friend that one would want to keep throughout life.

In a happy marriage, while discussing problems, couples make at least five times as many positive statements to and about each other and their relationship as negative ones.

If your husband asks you what you want for your birthday – tell him! Don’t expect him to “know” that you’d like to go to the theater. Tell him you want to go and mention the show you want to see by name.

If your spouse has complained about his or her family, respect their confidences and don’t use anything said as a weapon against them in the future.

Also known as future mother-in-law from hell. She looks down on you because she thinks nothing is good enough for her precious boy. Of course, the flipside of this is that she subconsciously realizes that you are good enough, and is afraid of losing her son.

If you have a choice between making yourself look good and making your spouse look good, choose your spouse!

Don’t compare your marriage to past relationships.

Don’t try too hard. You have to accept that some personalities are just not meant to match and not everyone will love you. On the positive side, most parents will love you anyway for making their son happy. So treat them like how you’d want someone you’re dating to treat your parents, and get on with it!

Never forget to introduce your spouse to your friends whenever they are around., because she is your wife and should always be treated with respect.

Both spouses should enter the marriage with the pure intention of pleasing. The marriage itself then becomes an act of worship and one for which both spouses will be rewarded. It is also important to realize that when an act of worship is continued over a long period of time, it becomes necessary to renew one's intention often to remain on the correct path and to obtain the most benefit.

This particular aspect can go a long way in preventing arguments and brightening the atmosphere of the home. Life is a constant stream of challenges and tests, and to approach it in a light-hearted manner will help to make the journey smoother and more enjoyable. You may also find that your spouse enjoys this characteristic and looks forward to spending time with you because of it.

Believe that you are both doing your best. If your partner’s best for the day is simply getting out of bed, then let them do their best and don’t hassle them. Understand that everyone has their down days, and if he forgets to take out the rubbish it’s not the end of the world.

A successful marriage is not something that just happens; you have to craft it. It’s a result of deliberate and conscience decisions to make a new way in your relationship.

If you ever get into a fight or argument, do not carry it to the next day, either one or both say sorry to each other no matter whose fault it was, within few hours.

Do not try to dominate the other partner (respect each other) no matter who earns more money. This is important, since many men coming from Indian background think that they are superior no matter how much they earn. Similarly women should respect their husbands even, if they don't work or earn less than them.

Remember how you treat your friends; if they forget to call you don’t get mad at them. If they are late to pick you up, you don’t jump down their throat so do the same for your partner. Hang out with him like you do with friends, so he doesn’t want to go shopping with you, but you can do things like go to fun parks, mini golf, out for dinner, brunch etc.

Mother In-law: - This bitter woman has spent the best years of her life raising her children, and they are all a disappointment to you. She’ll bitch about how her no-good husband either left her, or is so whipped he does nothing but sit around the house reading newspapers. Well, stand up to her! Nobody should be allowed to talk trash about your man…not even his mum!