Saptapadi
Marriage knot symbolized by tying one end of the groom's scarf with the bride's
dress. Then they take seven steps representing nourishment, strength,
prosperity, happiness, progeny, long life and harmony and understanding,
respectively.
Grih Puja
Ghari puja is also another important religious ceremony, which is performed on
the eve of the wedding day at the groom and bride's place separately. In many
regions ghari puja is combined with Pithi the cleansing ceremony during which
the bride and bridegroom are pasted with turmeric powder in a beautification
process.
Sangeet
Among the other important rituals are Sangeet parties where all the family
members and friends of the bride and groom celebrate by singing and dancing the
night away. Along with song and dance there are arrangements for food and
drink.
Tilak Ceremony
It is put on the forehead using Kumkum, a red turmeric powder. The male members
of the bride's family place a tilak on the forehead of the groom.
Barat departure
The groom leaves for the wedding venue riding a decorated horse. This is a very
colorful and grand ceremony. The groom is dressed in a sherwani (long jacket)
and 'churidars' (fitted trousers). On his head he wears a 'safa' (turban) with
a 'kalgi' (brooch) tied onto it.
Var Mala
In this ceremony the groom and bride exchange garlands (these are the "var
mala") signifying their acceptance of each other as husband and wife.
Vara Satkaarah
Function of the bridegroom and his kinsmen at the entrance gate of the wedding
hall where the officiating priest chants a few mantras and the bride's mother
blesses the groom with rice and trefoil and applies tilak of vermilion and
turmeric powder.
Pani-Grahan
The groom takes the right hand of the bride in his left hand and accepts her as
his lawfully wedded wife.
Saat Phere / Wedding Vows
The couple circles the sacred fire seven times. This aspect of the ceremony
legalizes the marriage according to the Hindu Marriage Act as well custom.
1. With the first step, the couple invokes the gods for plenty of pure and
nourishing food.
2. With the second step, the couple prays to the Gods to give them the mental,
physical and spiritual strength to lead a healthy life.
3. Couples pray "let us share joys and pains together. Let us walk together so
we get wealth.
4. With the fourth step, the bride and groom invoke the gods:- Let us walk
together so we get happiness by sharing our joys and sorrows.
5. With the fifth step, they pray." Let us observe all acts of charity. Let us
walk together so we have family,"
6. With the sixth step, they ask the gods to give them a long, joyous life and
togetherness forever.
7. With the seventh, and last, step, the couple prays for understanding,
companionship, loyalty and unity. "Let us be friends with love and sacrifice.
8. After the seventh step, the groom says to the bride: "With seven steps we
have become friends. Let me reach your friendship. Let me not be severed from
your friendship. Let your friendship not be severed from me." Only after the 7
steps, are the couple pronounced husband and wife.
Kanya Daan
The bride's father gives away his daughter to the groom amidst the chanting of
sacred mantras.
Vidaai
Before the bride leaves for her marital home, she either lights a 'mitti ka
diya' (earthen lamp) in her parents home or turns on all the lights.
What follows is the most touching and sensitive ritual of Hindu weddings, the
'lajahom'. 'Laja' or 'phulian' is puffed rice (a sign of prosperity), which the
bride has to take in both her hands and shower on all her family over the top
of her head. She does this all the way to the palanquin or decorated car, which
is waiting to take her to her new home. By doing this she is repaying all her
debts to her parents for having looked after her all these years.
Griha Pravesh
When the bride arrives at her new home, her mother-in-law, who welcomes her
with the traditional 'Aarti'.. At the entrance, she puts her right foot onto a
tray of vermilion powder mixed in water or milk, symbolizing the arrival of
good fortune and purity. With both her feet now covered in the red powder
paste, she kicks over a vessel filled with rice and coins to denote the arrival
of fertility and wealth in her marital home.
Muh Dikhai
Literally translated this means the 'showing of the bride' to the groom's
family members, but in reality it is actually a form of introduction. The
mother-in-law showers her 'bahu' (daughter-in-law) with jewellery, clothes and
money at this time. The other close relatives of the family also offer her
gifts and money.