Never go on the looks
take time, effort and have patience to really
get to know him/her. Everybody try to put their
best foot forward to make a good impression
on the first meet. Avoid believing in eyes as
it is said
“Choose
a lifepartner rather by your ear than your eye.”
Just use
the time you have together to get to know his/her
heart and mind. It doesnot seems to be an interrogation.
But try to know
• What does he/she
likes?
• What does not he/she not like?
• What are his/her views on women’s
issues?
• What do his/her friend think about
him?
• How does he/she treat his family?
• How does he/she talk about his past
relationships?
• Does he/she accept responsibility
for his/her mistakes or blame others for all
his/her problems?
• What are his/her regrets?
• Is he/she considerate of other’s
feelings?
Getting married
is a huge step, so it's worth making sure you
and your partner are thinking along the same
way before you tie the knot.
• Can we love,
trust and respect each other?
• Do we share the same expectations
of marriage?
• Do we share things in common that
make us shout, cry and laugh together?
• Can we agree on major life issues,
such as children, family, values and friends,
and style of living?
• Do we have a way of managing conflict?
• Can we love each other forever in
the same way, without any hidden agenda to
try to change the other?
• Are we compatible to each other in
long run also?
You don't have to agree
on everything. The important thing is that you
and your partner have talked through these questions
and both feel confident you can live and enjoy
together, knowing what the other believes.
Some important
things you should look in your life partner:
A life partner must be
a good listener when you need him. He/she should
be a dependable source of guidance and support
and should not turn deaf ear simply because
the problem is too big. If he/she doesn’t
know the solution, he will try the best to find
one.
It is important to find
someone with whom you can create a good relationship
from the outset. Laughter is one clue to compatibility.
It tells you how much you will enjoy each other’s
company over the long term. If your laughter
together is good and healthy, and not at the
expense of others, then you have a healthy relationship
to the world.
Look for a partner who
deals with the world in a way you respect. When
two people first get together, they tend to
see their relationship as existing only in the
space between the two of them. As the relationship
ages and grows, the outside world becomes important
again. If your partner treats people or circumstances
in a way you can’t accept, you will inevitably
come to grief. If you do not respect the way
you each deal with the world around you, eventually,
the two of you will not respect each other
Most
importantly, find someone you can talk to. Communication
is essential if a relationship is to last the
distance.
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